How To Prepare For First Dates
First date! The motherlode! The determining factor! The maker or breaker of budding relationships! Pardon my theatrics; I have a penchant for drama. But, all jokes aside, a first date is no joke, bruv. How To Prepare For First Dates
Please note that this article is written to cater to the needs of the guys who may be sorely lacking in this department. The female has asked me, graciously, to give you a few pointers.
You know as well as anybody else does that a first date is carefully thought out and planned, down to the tiniest detail. And it determines, to a large extent, if you get a second date and a third and a fourth and so on. So, when you are planning your first date with the girl you have your eye on, note the following:
How To Prepare For First Dates
You have got to be a gentleman, all through the period of the date. Even if she turns out to be Attila the Hun. Be a gentleman. Hold out her chair, get the door for her, listen to her, and do not interrupt when she’s talking. Make the Sweet Boys Association proud.
What Do You Want?
Know what the date should lead up to. In case you didn’t know, ladies like a man to be specific. What exactly do you want? The shyer ladies will probably not come out and ask you, but the bolder, take no prisoners type will ask. So, be sure to have a reason in mind. Why are you taking her on a date? Do you want to know her better? Or you want to increase your body count? And if the latter is the case, bro, just leave the poor thing alone. Heartbreak has killed enough people.
Time Is Of The Essence
Be punctual. Do not make her wait. If you can pick her up, that’s better. But, do not keep her waiting. That offense is irredeemable, unforgivable and unpardonable. Even if you feel like you’re on cloud nine after the date, she’ll bring it up, somehow. Women are like that. So, rack up bonus points for yourself when she’s gossiping with her friends after. Do not be late.
Impress Or Express?
Do not break the bank to impress. As you will see in the ideas below, you do not have to break the bank to plan a date. Yes, you want her to feel good, impress her even. We get it, but we want you to be able to grab a drink with your friends later and not worry about how you’ll feed for the rest of the month.
No One Likes A Pretender
Lastly, be real. Be you. Ask her questions. Be engaging. Do not resort to flattery. Observe her body language. And if you feel the urge to be physical, ask her first. Nobody likes an ass grabber.
First Date Ideas
A Coffee Shop Meet up
This is perfect for both of your comfort. You have seats, a nice ambiance, delicious little snacks, and all the time in the world. Well, not all the time. And any lag in conversation can be covered by people watching. Besides, it provides a certain sense of security for her first, and then for you. Especially if she was nervous when you asked her out.
Cliché, yes, but highly effective. Who doesn’t like to dress up? Pick a nice, affordable restaurant and preferably one with good reviews. It doesn’t hurt if there’s music and a good view. When she’s gazing at the view, you can stare at her all you want. Smart eh?
Before you ask out a lady on a date, be sure to ask her about her preferences. Every woman is different, even if they all have heels and the same color of hair on their heads. She may not like the idea of dinner, at least not until the third date, but she may like strolling on the beach with you (women think strangely, sometimes). It gives her a feel for what you are like without any artifice and vice versa. Try the beach. You’ll both be casual and the sunset is a beautiful thing to watch. She’ll remember that moment for life!
If you like to cook or you’re not a fan of crowds or she isn’t a fan of crowds, then a picnic is the perfect idea for your first date. And you can wow her with your cooking skills if you really like to cook. Plus, it’s cheaper. Pack a blanket, bug repellents (if you’ll be staying for a long time after dinner), drinks, food, and maybe a dessert or two and find a spot for the both of you. You can enlist some help in making it a surprise if you have nosy sisters like me.
Unless you plan on sitting together for a while before you have to see the movie or movies, I’d suggest you not watch a blockbuster on the release date. Why? Too many people, and you really cannot hold a decent conversation in a movie theatre. But, if you can afford to rent out the entire theatre, go for it! Just the two of you, lots of popcorn and drinks and you can really react to the movie, rather than being politically correct.
Pay for the tickets and get on with it! But be sure to confirm if she likes games. If she does, hoorah! Be competitive but do not be a sore loser. So if you do not know how to lose gracefully, learn it before you go on that date! And you can team up and play against other people. It’s a great way to test the waters. Hehehe.
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Now, most people do not get to meet people who love sports as much as they do or even more than they do. If you’re among the lucky percent, a sport date it is. Anything from football to wrestling to boxing to track and field events. Or you could watch it on live TV if she can come to your house and the venue is out of town. But do not play any games, mister, pun intended….how to prepare for first dates
Art Galleries, Museums, Historical Sites and Traditional Grounds
No, it’s not boring. Conversations that lead up to a date should include a discussion on hobbies, right? And if your girl mentions something that points in this direction, go in this direction. You’ll earn points for thoughtfulness, listening ability, and selflessness (even if you really aren’t into it, she’ll love you for doing it for her). And get yourself a second date. It’s the little things that matter, bro.
And there you have it! First date ideas that are guaranteed to land you your girl. Remember, be you, be a gentleman, and be safe!
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